Here's a little lesson on empathy vs sympathy... Empathy - the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Sympathy - feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else's misfortune. When people say "I can't imagine what you are going through" (or anything similar to losing my son)... its because you simply cannot EMPATHIZE with what happened. You cannot understand what it's like to lose your child. You cannot comprehend what its like to put your child to bed one night wake up 2 hours lat